truth be told, i don't see why any of the guys here have taken issue with what xaski_cigaal said...she didn't oppose the rulings of the Qur'an and Sunnah...but rather, stated we should understand the reason why we, as men, are given such privileges (not rights) which are also at the same time responsibilities...and also to understand the Islamic wisdom behind those decisions, other than "because we're guys and we're not girls".
Yes, Muslim men are allowed to marry from the people of the book and Muslim women aren't...the reason being, the male is given the responsibilities of managing the household and is the leader of the family unit...since he is accountable for the spiritual and physical wellbeing of the family, he has rights over the family as well..in that they obey him. So, if a Muslim woman married a non-Muslim man...and she was obligated to obey him (while he's a non-believer)...where would the logic be in that?
Yes, men are allowed to marry more than one wife and up to a total of four....with strict conditions. How many of us can treat 4 women the same? Granted, we're human beings, and we have no control over our feelings so we might end up loving one more than the rest, but how many of us can make it appear that we love them all equally, and divide our time, affection, finances, etc. We seem to think that we're entitled to plural marriages, simply because Rasuulullah SAW had plural marriages...but let's look for a moment at the circumstances and the wisdom behind him having plural marriages and even being an expected to the limit of 4 wives. In jahiliya before Islam, the pagan arabs used to use "Family" as the pivotal factor of their society...in terms of justice system, social system, economic system, etc....to the point that, an action was considered "moral" or "immoral" depending on whether the person was from their tribe/lineage or not. Prophet Muhammad SAW understood this and knew the sacred ties of kindship were too entrenched in their lives, so he decided to strengthen the Islamic family association with the 4 Righteous Khalifahs and make it official family relations...which is why he married Aisha (RA), the daughter of Abu Bakr (RA) and and Hafsah (RA), the daughter of Omar (RA)....Uthman (RA) was married to the Prophet's (SAW) daughter Ruqiya (RA) and when she died, he was married to Rasuulullah's (SAW) other daughter Umm Kaltum (RA)...and Ali (RA) was married to the Prophet's (SAW) daughter Fatima (RA). Similarly, the Prophet SAW also married the daughters of his enemies....he married Al-Harith's daughter Juwayriyah (RA) and married Abu Sufyans daughter Umm Habibah (RA)...to foster peace and reconciliation....so the Prophet's (SAW) marriages served a purpose greater than his own desires....can any of us say we would marry multiply for such pious and selfless reasons?
The one thing that angers me is Muslim men who use the Diin as a way to wield power over Muslim women....a couple months ago at a Khutbah in the Masjid i attend, the Imam was talking about how he was approached by a Muslim sister who was beaten and bruised and was looking for a solution to her husbands violent ways...she didn't wanna call the police out of fear, not of him, but of Allah SWT...and she assumed she had no recourse but to absorb the punishment or else she would be causing fitnah...but the only fitnah is that the "man" is not locked up and used Islam as his justification for his own corruptness....we all want Muslim women to act the way the Qur'an describes for them to act.....yet none of us want to behave in the way the Qur'an prescribes for us...and then we're quick to label sisters as sacrilegious for questioning our misuse of the Qur'an and Sunnah...which is an injustice against the sisters, Muhammad SAW, The Qur'an, The Sunnah, Allah SWT, and most of all, our own selves.
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