what would u do to make ur parent happy?

Originally Posted by Lucious

What if her parents presented her a potential husband and she agreed to marry him--that would mean she made the decision on her own. What difference does it make if you found your husband/wife or if they were someone your parents' had their eye on? At the end of the night; you made the choice of becoming their spouse. That being said; I don't support parents who force marriage onto their children but I'm not against parents who shop around for their children either.

What if not? You are making assumptions. I'm talking of ideally man that is been chosen by her parents, not one she always looked with admiration or attracted to, in which case it would have been lucky by coincidence.

Let us say that her parents had eye on one because of him being relative from the mother's side, in which traditionally daughter should be married to. And let us say that she doesn't like him at all. If she marries him for her parent's sake, what choice did she make?

Originally Posted by Hillaac

What if not? You are making assumptions. I'm talking of ideally man that is been chosen by her parents, not one she always looked with admiration or attracted to, in which case it would have been lucky by coincidence.

Let us say that her parents had eye on one because of him being relative from the mother's side, in which traditionally daughter should be married to. And let us say that she doesn't like him at all. If she marries him for her parent's sake, what choice did she make?

DUDE HER PARENTS CANT FORCE HER THATS HARAM SHE HAS AS MUCH RIGHT 2 SAY NO HER PARENTS SHOULD FIND HER A SUITBALE PARTNER

[Lucious]

Originally Posted by Hillaac

What if not? You are making assumptions. I'm talking of ideally man that is been chosen by her parents, not one she always looked with admiration or attracted to, in which case it would have been lucky by coincidence.

Let us say that her parents had eye on one because of him being relative from the mother's side, in which traditionally daughter should be married to. And let us say that she doesn't like him at all. If she marries him for her parent's sake, what choice did she make?

Of course she made a choice. She had the option to decline the offer but instead, for her parent's sake, she agreed to the marriage. Even though she doesn't like him; she made the choice to be with him.

[sundus]

Originally Posted by Hillaac

Sundus - Slave is someone who is abjectly subservient to a specified person/people, and you fit the definition since you can't even make the biggest decision of your life.

Surely they saw something in the guy, and that thing is, as always, money. That is to say, anyone with money will be able to buy you from your owners (parents) and will be your master.

what they can make the biggest decision of my life..they r my parent i have to listen to them and accept everything they say...cuz i want to...money is nothing..i bet ur side is big deal...

Originally Posted by Lucious

OUCH!

So what if she agrees to marry a man her parents picked out for her? Doesn't make her incapable of making the 'biggest' decision of her life; just shows that she wholeheartedly trusts that her parents choice is the best choice. And who are you to say it isn't? Loosen up a bit & stop being so skeptical will ya!

Thanks sis 4 for telling him that

[sundus]

Originally Posted by Floetry

If she accepts to be arranged that would be her business brother
She is a slave of Allah alone, and the Hadith says,
"And he has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your Parents. if one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, not shout at them but address them in terms of honor." she could chose to listen to her parents to the extreme, only a good outcome will come for
Her hereafter!!

Thanks sis for pointing out my point